Subtitle: How To Lose Friends and Piss People Off
So, today is President’s Day in the United States, and since I personally don’t have a President (sorry, I didn’t elect that clown), I’ll honor our Presidents past while celebrating another national holiday of my own.
IT’S MY BIRTHDAY!
So, 49 years ago, God split the sky and dropped another goddess in the midst of many, and here I am. Very happy to be alive and kicking. I partied like a rockstar all weekend, which many of you saw on my Facebook pages. This is why I haven’t posted. More and more lately, real life has been stalling my posts, but they still come, so no harm, no foul, right?
Speaking of harms and fouls, my weekend wasn’t all bottomless drinks and birthday cake. I broke one of my golden rules (pun intended), that being to never discuss politics or religion. I became very passionate about the horrible incident in Parkland, Florida, and made my opinions known in a three-line Facebook status that invariably sparked controversy.
Maybe I’m not versed on the rules of engagement, but this person began to make little comments that were insulting to me and my country. I tried to tell her, please choose your words wisely because that comment was offensive and this is why. She came back at me telling me that her comments were not offensive, they were truth, and kept trying to shove them down my throat.
What do you guys think I did? You guessed it—my claws came out!
Unless you set out to offend someone, you may not know that something you said was offensive. However, when they bring it to your attention, TAKE HEED! Just because you think something you’ve said is not offensive doesn’t mean it’s not offensive. If someone points out that they were offended by what you said, examine your words and roll that back. You can make your point without being offensive! At least three other people presented the same view that she did—and we still disagreed—and they never became offensive. We just agreed to disagree.
Needless to say, when my claws came out to defend myself and my country and explain her error in communication, she called me a diva, a bully, and all kinds of other crap, and the entire conversation just got completely lost. The bottom line was she asked me for my opinion and when I gave it, she spit on it, and I was supposed to stand still for it.
The REAL bottom line was that I never should have sparked the conversation in the first place.
I know people are going to say, “Hey, Goddess, it’s your right to speak your mind,” and that’s true, too. However, in reality, you should pick your battles—and politics and religion will always result in you losing a friend. Yes, there are people that you can discuss these things with, but there are people that you cannot discuss these things with because the topics are so passionate that views differ widely across cultures, beliefs systems, practices, what have you. And that’s okay—our differences are what makes us interesting. If we were all the same, this would be a boring ass place.
So, I’ve learned my lesson (again), because it didn’t matter if she was right or I was right or we both we wrong, that conversation was going to end badly. I was too passionate about how I felt; she was dug in about how she felt; and no matter how many times we point the finger at and place the blame on each other, both guns started firing (terrible analogy under the circumstances, I know, but it’s the best one) and as a result, I lost a reader and a Facebook friend on both ID’s.
C’est la vie, right?
So, from this point on, I’ll keep my political views to myself and let my vote speak for me—even though it appears that my vote had absolutely no impact in the last Presidential election. Nonetheless, that’s all I can do. That which does not kill me…
Anywho, Happy Goddess Day to all of you, and to the reader that I lost, I apologize that our views differed so drastically that we had that bad a debate, specifically in a public forum. Although I still feel very strongly about what I said, and I won’t renege on my opinion, I’ve learned my lesson again about those kinds of opposing views. Any other time, I would have walked away—and I did when I saw the views getting heated again in other conversations because I was exhausted with the topic, but no matter the circumstance, I still refuse to let people insult me directly or indirectly (i.e. insult my country) and think it’s okay. I don’t apologize for that.