Goddess Day

Goddess Day
Subtitle: How To Lose Friends and Piss People Off

So, today is President’s Day in the United States, and since I personally don’t have a President (sorry, I didn’t elect that clown), I’ll honor our Presidents past while celebrating another national holiday of my own.

IT’S MY BIRTHDAY! giphy

So, 49 years ago, God split the sky and dropped another goddess in the midst of many, and here I am. Very happy to be alive and kicking. I partied like a rockstar all weekend, which many of you saw on my Facebook pages. This is why I haven’t posted. More and more lately, real life has been stalling my posts, but they still come, so no harm, no foul, right?

Speaking of harms and fouls, my weekend wasn’t all bottomless drinks and birthday cake. I broke one of my golden rules (pun intended), that being to never discuss politics or religion. I became very passionate about the horrible incident in Parkland, Florida, and made my opinions known in a three-line Facebook status that invariably sparked controversy.

Maybe I’m not versed on the rules of engagement, but this person began to make little comments that were insulting to me and my country. I tried to tell her, please choose your words wisely because that comment was offensive and this is why. She came back at me telling me that her comments were not offensive, they were truth, and kept trying to shove them down my throat.

What do you guys think I did? You guessed it—my claws came out!

Unless you set out to offend someone, you may not know that something you said was offensive. However, when they bring it to your attention, TAKE HEED! Just because you think something you’ve said is not offensive doesn’t mean it’s not offensive. If someone points out that they were offended by what you said, examine your words and roll that back. You can make your point without being offensive! At least three other people presented the same view that she did—and we still disagreed—and they never became offensive. We just agreed to disagree.

Needless to say, when my claws came out to defend myself and my country and explain her error in communication, she called me a diva, a bully, and all kinds of other crap, and the entire conversation just got completely lost. The bottom line was she asked me for my opinion and when I gave it, she spit on it, and I was supposed to stand still for it.

The REAL bottom line was that I never should have sparked the conversation in the first place.

I know people are going to say, “Hey, Goddess, it’s your right to speak your mind,” and that’s true, too. However, in reality, you should pick your battles—and politics and religion will always result in you losing a friend. Yes, there are people that you can discuss these things with, but there are people that you cannot discuss these things with because the topics are so passionate that views differ widely across cultures, beliefs systems, practices, what have you. And that’s okay—our differences are what makes us interesting. If we were all the same, this would be a boring ass place.

So, I’ve learned my lesson (again), because it didn’t matter if she was right or I was right or we both we wrong, that conversation was going to end badly. I was too passionate about how I felt; she was dug in about how she felt; and no matter how many times we point the finger at and place the blame on each other, both guns started firing (terrible analogy under the circumstances, I know, but it’s the best one) and as a result, I lost a reader and a Facebook friend on both ID’s.

C’est la vie, right?

So, from this point on, I’ll keep my political views to myself and let my vote speak for me—even though it appears that my vote had absolutely no impact in the last Presidential election. Nonetheless, that’s all I can do. That which does not kill me…

Anywho, Happy Goddess Day to all of you, and to the reader that I lost, I apologize that our views differed so drastically that we had that bad a debate, specifically in a public forum. Although I still feel very strongly about what I said, and I won’t renege on my opinion, I’ve learned my lesson again about those kinds of opposing views. Any other time, I would have walked away—and I did when I saw the views getting heated again in other conversations because I was exhausted with the topic, but no matter the circumstance, I still refuse to let people insult me directly or indirectly (i.e. insult my country) and think it’s okay. I don’t apologize for that.

Happy Goddess Day!
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43 thoughts on “Goddess Day

  1. seralynsmom says:

    I know what you mean. I had to step away. Soooooo far away from all this. People may think I’m sticking my head in the sand but it’s far better than saying something that may get me into trouble or piss off every fucking body. Because I came veeeeeeeeery close the other day. So very, very close. So sometimes you just have to step away. Glad to see you had lots and lots of fun!!! Happy Birthday Lynn!!!

  2. Valarie J Mathis says:

    You Go Girl 💪 👍

  3. Leah says:

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂

  4. Jeangb says:

    Go for it girl, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. As you say it makes us interesting as human beings. Being so diverse, makes the world go round; if we weren’t the earth would still be flat, there would be no belief that all creatures have evolved through time, the scientists would not have argued to make the discoveries they have. Exsistance would end dull and in the doldrums eventually to fade away altogether.
    Unfortunately disagreements bring hatred and people will always fight for what they believe in, you do it with words, like many people, others have to physically fight for thier beliefs causing pain and suffering to the innocent.
    Anyhow, enough spouting, go enjoy your life the way you do.
    Happy birthday goddess 🎂🎁🍷💐😘

  5. Jennifer Timmons says:

    Happy birthday!!!!

  6. Jean Tryon says:

    First Bronze Goddess, I hope you had a wonderful birthday. Now, a small observation. Post what you damn well want to. Just be aware you might offend someone. This is the hard part: especially if it is not someone you know, for heaven’s sake do NOT respond. If you must vent, vent to yourself, write it all down, then *delete*. Someone who is spoiling for a fight/argument will be driven up a wall by you not taking the bait. This is you acting passive aggressively. I admit to have used this on occasion with someone who is obnoxious to me. Your ‘friend’ wasn’t much of a friend if s/he got nasty and was hellbent on promoting his/her own viewpoint without being courteous. So. Do your thing. Good on ya.

  7. Alejandra says:

    Happy birthday Lynn!!!

  8. gilette719 says:

    HAPPY LATE BIRTHDAY!!!

  9. First Happy Belated Birthday !! Second I agree with you I can’t bring up politics around my family because they are staunch Republicans, which is fine their choice, but I am not and trying to have a civil conversation doesn’t happen. What really frightens me is the aggressiveness I see. Its one thing to have your opinion and be passionate about it, its a whole other thing to get so enraged for not agreeing that you get nasty and aggressive about it. So I just keep my mouth shut as well. I am used to being the outcast in my family because of my views and choices. Happy Goddess Day !!!

  10. lpev7 says:

    Happy Birthday BG🍷🍷

  11. Sophia says:

    Happy birthday 👑

  12. Erin says:

    The 19th is my birthday too! And I pretty much said all the same as you did to a coworker. Great minds think alike. 🙂

  13. Lucinda says:

    I totally get you though. I have a small group of friends and family I can discuss these things with. But it seems you cannot have intelligent conversations w some. I was at dinner last yr when the conversation turned to changing of name of certain Texas schools. The table mostly white kept talking about history and u know the rest of it. I knew nothing I said would matter so I got my check and told my friend to never ask me out with this particular group.

  14. AnaMaria says:

    Happy Belated Birthday!!!

  15. Sheila Peña says:

    Happy birthday Goddess!!!

  16. JESSICA P MARTIN says:

    Happy Birthday, Goddess!

  17. Debbie says:

    Happy Divine Birthday, BG🎈🎂🎈. Hope you are recovered.😎😉
    The fb adversary (being nice here) just made their viewpoint less credible. We probably all have at some point been drawn in by somebody that has tunnel vision. I am not on any social media site for this reason. I have real problem with basic stupidity. Usually can walk away…but catch me in a mood….mmhmmm…here I come. So just let that shut roll off of you
    As many here have said, we are all entitled to our opinions.
    Have a great week.

    • Thank you. You’ll know Ill still speak my mind, but I just need to choose my battles in the future. My screaming voice on Facebook is pretty useless to me, so that entire conversation was futile. Certain battles and communications are Facebook worthy while other battles can only be won with my vote. So there you have it–but I so appreciate you guys making me feel loved, wanted, and understood.

  18. Debbie says:

    Shit, that is.
    Damn auto correct

  19. Debbie says:

    You know what? No sweat. You just cleaned house!

  20. amiramo11 says:

    Wish you all the best for your birthday 🎂🎉

  21. Lori says:

    I hope you are having a wonderful birthday!

  22. Camille Henley says:

    Happy Belated Birthday Goddess! I hope that you had a wonderful time with family and friends….

  23. Janis says:

    Don’t sweat the small stuff….especially on things you cannot change.
    It’s your week, enjoy it with your family and friends!
    Happy birthday to you!!🎊🛍🎉🎈🎈🎂🥂🍸🍸💥💫👩🏾 And wishing you many many more!!

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